Tribute to the dad who did small things with great love

 As parents we usually try to give the best for our children. We slog and work very hard to ensure that all their needs are taken care. Very often we end up giving them big and expensive things which really like but they may not really appreciate our sacrifices behind all those expensive gifts and rewards. When I look back at my own life, I realize that it is the little things done with great love by my parents that I tend to remember most. It was not the material value of what they gave but the value of the efforts they put into that seemed to have struck me and remains vividly in my mind.

The following story in my life is one such effort by my late father when I was in school about 48years ago.

At that time I was in standard 5. We were rather poor depending totally on my father’s income as a hospital attendant.  My mother used to give me 5 or 10sen as pocket money to school every day. My parents tried their very best to ensure they had that money every morning. Looking back now I realized the trouble they would have gone through just to get that 10sen to make sure I don’t go hungry in school.

One morning my mother did not have even that 5sen to give me to school. She sent me without any pocket money and I obediently went without making a fuss. While in school just at the bell rang for recess, I was feeling hungry but did not have any money to buy food. Just I walked out of the classroom I saw my father entering the school compound on his bicycle. He saw me and quickly came over and handed over 10sen for my food that morning. I took the money, bid him goodbye and rushed to the canteen to join my friends for some food and drink. I in fact felt embarrassed when my friends teased that my father had come to bring the money to school.

That evening back at home my mother explained how my father got the money for me. He was very sad when my mother told him she did not have the pocket money for me. He went to work and managed to borrow 10sen from his friend, take time off from his superior and rushed to the school to hand over the money before recess, which he made it just in time.

At that tender age I was not aware of how he would have felt when he couldn’t give me even 5sen to school. It did not understand how he would have felt when he had to borrow 10sen from his friend, approach his boss to get time off and rush to send me the miserable 10sen.

Now when I recall and picture the scenes I feel so proud of my father. What he gave me might be very small but it was done with a big heart. How happy and contended he would felt when he managed to bring that 10sen to me in time. How pleased he would have felt when he saw the happiness in my face on receiving the money.

Yes, it is the little things others do for us with great love somehow remains in our hearts. That was what Mother Teresa asked us to do in our own lives,  “We cannot do great things but we can do small things with great love”.

To all children out there treasure every moment who have with your dad and appreciate everything he does for you.And dads remember is not the big things that matter but the small things that you do with great love for your children.

Happy Father's Day 

A Prayer for Fathers

Prayer for dads on this Father’s Day

On this special day for fathers let's pray God that bless all the fathers with good health, peace & happiness.

Those who are lonely be their company Lord Those who are sick grant them speedy recovery. Those who are dying give them courage to face death with peace of mind Those who are neglected by their children console them Those who are sad bring them happiness Those who hopeless give them hope                                                                                                                                                                                                      Those struggling financially to cater for their family, grant the monetary support                                                                                                                                                                                          Those distressed with the problems of their children, help them find the solutions

Soften the hardened hearts of children who are disobedient, rude and disrespectful to their fathers and touch those who are ungrateful Lord make us the instruments of peace and love for all fathers who need some comfort and solace in their lives

Lord please bless these and all fathers wherever there are and in whatever state they may be as   You alone what they need and deserve.

Happy Father's Day

Darmendran’s assailants charged for murder

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There was much relief with the charging of the three police personnel were charged in a magistrate's court in Kuala Lumpur today with the murder of N Dhamendran while he was being held in their custody. The offence carries a mandatory death penalty upon conviction.

Attorney-General Abdul Gani Patail commended the Royal Malaysian Police for its swift action to address the death of Dhamendran, which is a serious issue that questions the integrity of police force. In fact it should be the right thinking and concerned Malaysian public and the social media that should be praised for forcing the police to act fast.

By the way it is just the beginning and we hope the trial will be carried out fairly so that justice can be done to the family of the deceased victim and the accused trio. It will also help improve the morale of the majority of dedicated police personnel who will not condone such atrocities committed by fellow colleagues.

We hope such quick action will deter other such irresponsible police personnel from carrying such brutal acts on detainees under their care as no body should allowed to take the law into their own hands.

The next question for the authorities is how many others in the police force show similar aggressive tendencies towards suspected criminals. The Darmendran case may be just the tip of the iceberg. Going by the mere number of deaths in custody, I am sure there are many more such irresponsible and abuse police personnel who should be weeded out and action taken to either counsel or even sack them from the police force.

It is sad to know that are young police personnel in our forces who resort to such brutal assaults on fellow Malaysian detained for investigation.The large number of custodial deaths is a clear indication that not all is well with our police force. Much needs to done to provide better education and training for the new recruits and upgrade the services to a more acceptable level of professionalism. They should be guided by only the laws not ethnic, religious and political prejudices in carrying out their duties.

Detailed report at : http://www.malaysiakini.com/news/232093

Dharmendran's death - I feel ashamed & sad as a M'sian.

 M Marry, the widow of police custodial death victim N Dharmendran, wants his interrogators charged for murder and hung to death. Breaking down several times at a packed press conference held with her lawyer N Surendran, Marry was still emotional but clear-minded as to the circumstances surrounding her husband's suspicious death.

In particular, she berated officials from Prime Minister Najib Razak's department including newly appointed minister Paul Low for trying to cover up the worst facets of the case, which has once against cast a tawdry spotlight on brutality in the Malaysian police force, by now among the most notorious in the region accused of torturing and beating to death suspects thrown into its lockups, even those remanded for small crimes.

"I feel sad and ashamed as a Malaysian at what they have done to my husband," said Marry, who wept as she spoke up for the father of her two-year-old son.

"My husband could not defend himself. They just beat him to death, cruelly, they beat him to death. And yet they are trying to waste time when it is so clear. What can be more clear than all these details," she said waving to the autopsy report that found 52 horrific injury marks on Dharmendran's body indicating severe and prolonged torture."

"And they are still free, the people who did this to my husband. If anyone murdered someone, we would straightaway be sent to the lockup. But these people are outside, having a good time. These people should be jailed, not transferred or anything, they don't qualify. As far as I am concerned, I want to see those who did this hanged, hanged to death."
"This is murder. The police murdered him," Marry wept.

This is murder, this is murder

Indeed, despite pledges of reform, there has been little real progress in stemming police violence towards those in their power. While suspects of Indian descent have borne the brunt, custodial death victims have come from other racial descent. According to Surendran, this reflected a "systemic failure because the authorities could not be bothered" to stop the rot.

"Four years, I revealed the autopsy report for A Kugan at this very premise. At that point of time, I had hoped I would never have to do it ever again but 4 years later we have another that is just as bad as the Kugan case," Surendran said.

"Dharmendran was beaten over almost every inch of his body. Not one inch of his body was spared from beating. In this air-con room we are sitting in, we can only imagine the pain of what the man went through before he died. He had no hope, he was handcuffed, he could not escape, he was beaten to death. This was a man with hope, he had a wife, a two-year-old son and they took all that away from him."

The lawyer, who is also the MP for Padang Serai, had exposed the contents of Dharmendran's post-mortem report on Saturday. The autopsy had been conducted by a government hospital and the full report released only on Friday, May 31.

The 31-year-old Dharmendran, an employee of sewage treatment utility Indah Water, had been remanded since May 11 for suspected involvement in a fight. He was found dead in police custody on May 21. Police bigwigs including KL CID chief Ku Chin Wah had suggested he died due to a heart attack or from some form of chest complications.

However, the autopsy report performed by Dr Siew Sheue Feng, the forensics expert from Hospital Kuala Lumpur, was conclusive in stating otherwise.

"There was no significant natural disease found in his body that could have caused or contributed to his death at that particular moment in time. Post-mortem examination revealed he sustained multiple blunt force trauma in his body. These injuries were caused by blunt objects and the wounds were relatively fresh. No defensive wound was identified in the body of the deceased. The overall pattern of these injuries is neither self-inflicted nor accidental in nature," the summary and conclusion of Dr Siew's report stated.

Handcuffed, tortured with staples, every inch of his body was beaten up

Dharmendran's family want also want Prime Minister Najib Razak to make a public explanation to the Malaysian public as to why a citizen taken into remand by the police force had been found "with staples in his ears and beating marks all over his body".

"With this post-mortem report, there is enough evidence to bring murder charges . 4 policemen have been transferred to desk duty. This is a joke. They must be arrested and charged immediately. And by immediately, I mean by today, by this hour," said Surendran.

"PM must explain. This is Gestapo-style torture. You can come and give condolences. But family is not looking for condolences. Family is only asking for one thing from the government - arrest and charge the culprits involved for murder. Why is that so difficult?"
Surendran pointed out that the police had already received a copy of the report by 11am on Friday, May 31.

"But why have the police not arrested anyone? I would have thought they would have rushed to make arrests. Have they taken action? No? Desk duty!" said Surendran.
"This is the demand of every right thinking Malaysian, I also want to add when you look at the enormity of the report how ridiculous the Home Minister is when he talks about the EAIC. We are talking about murder, a non-bailable offense. Why are playing for time, why are the stalling why don't they want to give justice to this family."

Summary of autopsy report crystal clear

The summary of the post-mortem report stated that:
1. The body was that if an adult Indian makl positively identified by his father-in-law as the above-named person.
2. There was no significant natural disease found in his body that could have caused or contributed to his death at that particular moment in time.
3. Each of his external ear was still stapled with a metal staple.
4. Postmortem examination revealed he sustained multiple blunt force trauma on his body.
5. These injuries were caused by blunt objects and the wounds were relatively fresh.
6. Some of these injuries showed pattern of double 'tramline' pair; pair of superficial punctures within distance of 1 to 1.1cm, handcuff marks, and etc.
7. Internal dissection showed he had diffuse soft tissue injuries with subcutaneous haemorrhage.
8. The subcutaneous haemorrhage was more severe in both should regions, back of thorax and both lower limbs.
9. No defensive wound was identified on the body of the deceased.
10. The overall pattern of these injuries is neither self-inflicted nor accidental in nature.


Malaysia Chronicle
1 June 2013


 

It is extremely disturbing know of the brutal way Darmendran was tortured and killed,of all places while in police custody.All Malaysians must rose above race and creed to condemn this brutal killing in the strongest terms.

The cabinet members,especially the Indian representatives must take a stand NOW on such to condemn the death and demand for action by the PM and the govt.failing which they must pull out in protest.Failing to do so they will will be seen be abetting such brutal torture by police,

It is very sad that the police that is entrusted to protect the citizens,itself becomes the criminal.If we citizens cannot be guaranteed safety in the police station,where else can we.

It is lke what the Malay proverb says,"Pagar makan padi."