Saturday, November 13, 2010

Lessons in Like:Learning to appreciate


ne young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview; the director who is the decision maker conducted his last interview.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "None."

The director asked, " Did your father pay for your school fees?" the youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, "Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner." The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect to the director.

The director asked, "Did you ever help your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me."

The director said, "I have a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning."

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job is high. When he went home, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hand, his mother felt strange, happy but mixed with apprehension, she showed her hand to her son.

The youth cleaned his mother's hand slowly, his tears drop down as he did that. It is the first time he discovered his mother's hand is so wrinkled, and there are so many bruises in her hand. While cleaning, some bruises caused so much pain his mother's body shivered.

For the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to pay for his school fees, the bruises in the mother's hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation, academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hand, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.Next morning, the youth went to the director's office

The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye and asked: "Can you tell me what you have done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, "I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes."

The director asked, "Please tell me how you feel?"

The youth said, "Firstly, I know what is appreciation, without my mother, I would not be so successful today. Secondly, I learned how to work together with my mother, only then I realized how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Thirdly, I know the importance and value of family relationship."

The director said, "This is what I am looking for, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person who understands the suffering of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired!"

Later on, this young person worked very hard and received the respect of his subordinates, every employee working diligently as a team, the company's result improved tremendously.

This story highlights a very important lesson in life – to appreciate and be grateful for the sacrifices of those who have helped to make us what we are today. All of us owe our successes to our own parents who willingly sacrifices all they had for our well being. They may not be perfect but are the only ones in the world for but whom sacrifice for their children brought joy and satisfaction.

It is also a lesson for parents who tend to over-protect their children by hiding their troubles from them for fear that may sadden them. Many of us are better people today because of our humble past when we shared the pain and sufferings of our parents when we were young.

A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he does, will develop "entitlement mentality" and will always put himself first. He is ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts working, he assumes everyone must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he will never understand the suffering of his employees and he will always blame others. For this kind of people, he can have good results, may be successful for a while, but eventually will not feel a sense of achievement; he will grumble and will be full of hatred and yearn for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, do we love the child or destroy the child?

You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way.

You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, their bodies wither, their energy drained and finally succumb to some serious illness like the mother the mother of that young man in the story. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experiences the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get things done when we are no more there to protect them anymore.


Jo said...

I just finished reading some of your posts and i truly think it is inspiring. I might even say it's surprising as not many people are as out-spoken as you do on issues in our country. It is very hopeful for us young ones to have someone to look up to as we take steps to change our homeland for the better.
Personally I wish there were more people like you who can see things in a unbiased way and take a global perspective for the future.

Anonymous said...

Thank God we are not alone. You have expressed my thoughts excellently.

We too often forget that work and difficulties build character in us and in our children. When we shelter them we condemn them to a life of feeling the world owes them something -- the better way of thinking is what can we offer the world.

Just know that your writings easily apply to parts of the world for I am in Bsrbados and I see my country in your writings


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