Sacrificing our likes for her happiness
It is customary for us on Mother’s day to recall the
sacrifices of our mother and show our love and gratitude for all she has done
for us. It is undeniable that our
mothers have done a lot for our well-being and success and it is only fitting
and right to pay tribute to this wonderful woman in our lives.
For a change this Mother’s day it may be appropriate to
ponder on what are doing to reciprocate the boundless love of our mother for
us. How much do we really value her sacrifice for us? Is the love between us is
just one sided, from mother to children or is it mutual? Are we willing to
sacrifice a little of our likes for the sake of our mother? If so how willing
are we to do that? Our mother loved us unconditionally but is our love for is
also unconditional or do we impose conditions to show that love?
Son carrying mother to hospital
Recently I
came across an inspiring story of a 62 year old man in China carrying his
ailing and aged mother in his arms to a hospital. On being asked he simply
said,
''When I was small, she carried me; when she grow old, I carry her''. These words of this man touched the hearts
of many who described his action as "An
incredible in today's world." The action of this son may be an extreme
example of filial piety which we tend to write off as impractical; nevertheless
it is an eye opener for many who take their mothers for granted.
This Mother’s Day instead of
recalling the sacrifices our mother had done for us, let us see what we can
sacrifice for her happiness and comfort. Let us reflect on what we can do to
show our love and concern for our mothers as they grow old and lonely,
especially if our fathers are not around anymore.
It is not enough to take her out for
a meal, buy expensive gifts and clothes on Mother’s Day which just comes once a year. It
is not food, money or gifts that she needs but love, attention and above all our
time and physical presence. Our mere presence alleviates her fear and anxiety
of aging and gives her tremendous hope and courage.
One of the greatest virtues that our
mothers treasure is our obedience. As children we had absolute obedience to our
mother as we depended fully on her at that time. However as we grow older and
become independent adults our obedience to her becomes less and conditional as
we obey only those that are favourable to us. When she disapproves with what we
like and want, we tend to defy her causing much pain which endures in silence that
we tend not to see as we are busy with our own lives.
I realise that my own
mother at 82 years, is very happy whenever I consult her for some major
decisions. She is happier still when I change my decision if she disagrees with
me. The happiness that she gets by my obedience is far greater than all the
money, food, gifts and comforts I can give her.
As we celebrate this Mother’s day let us reflect whether we
are doing anything that hurts our mother. Let us reflect on whether we are
treading the wrong path that is making her sad. Let us reflect to see what we
can do on this day and the days to come to make her a little happy. Let us
submit to her wishes out of respect and gratitude in whatever way
we can.
It may be timely to ask ourselves when was the last time we
visited our mother? When was the last time we spent some quality time with her?
When was the last time we really sat down and chatted with her like we used to
do when we were younger? If we cannot recall any of these, then we have some
serious catching up to do with our mother on this Mother’s day.
Happy Mother’s Day
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